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There are four problems no marriage can survive, according to divorce expert Micki McWade
There are four problems no marriage can survive, according to divorce expert Micki McWade"

There are four insurmountable problems no marriage can survive, according to a leading divorce expert.
And just having an affair isn't one of them.
Blogging on the Huffington Post, psychotherapist and author Micki McWade said cheating on a spouse is often just a symptom of one of four deeper underlying issues - issues which, she says, are the ones to ultimately end a marriage.

McWade - who describes herself as a collaborative divorce coach, a parent educator and collaborative trainer - outlines these marital dead-ends as: partners ceasing to be partners; chronic complaining and blame-throwing; narcissism and addiction.
She explains...
Ceasing to be partners: When one partner feels the other is immature, irresponsible, untrustworthy or selfish, the marital dynamic will crumble, destroying intimacy and sexual attraction. One partner will then 'detach'. Domestic abuse is the most extreme version of this.
There's often no turning back from detachment, so it's important to recognize and start marriage counseling before breaking point. A marriage counselor can't manufacture a connection, only strengthen it.
Domestic abuse is the most severe form of 'detachment', when one partner no longer feels equal to the other
Domestic abuse is the most severe form of 'detachment', when one partner no longer feels equal to the other"
Chronic complaining and blame-throwing: When marital problems are not resolved to the satisfaction of both, resentment builds - and this erodes relationships.
Solving a problem by compromise is more important than being 'right'. Individuals who cannot accept accountability are doomed to fail in relationships.
 

Narcissism:Everyone is narcissistic to some extent, but this is problematic when partners are unable to empathise with each other and instead compete over issues such as who works harder, who spends more time with the children, who had a tougher day.
When partners don't understand the other's contribution, each assume the other has it easier and neither feels understood.
A problem with addiction - be it to drugs, gambling or alcohol - will always take priority over marriage and family
A problem with addiction - be it to drugs, gambling or alcohol - will always take priority over marriage and family"
Addiction:Addiction will always be an addict's main focus above marriage and family, and their partner will feel angry and embarrassed by their lack of consideration for others.
If a user is unable to give up their habit they will shift blame onto their partner, who may try to hold the relationship together for a while - especially if children are involved - but will eventually give up if there is no recovery.
Parents will often try to stay together for the sake of their children, but once these four problems have run too deep there is little hope for a marriage
Parents will often try to stay together for the sake of their children, but once these four problems have run too deep there is little hope for a marriage"
McWade explains it is important to correct marital issues before they become habitual behaviours and are imposible to change.
She says: 'It's difficult for couples to change long-standing relationship patterns by themselves because people tend to argue for their own points of view. Communication doesn't get anywhere without a neutral perspective. Patterns must be recognized and interrupted.'

HABARI NDO HIYO ENDELEA KUMSOMA MICKI MCWADE'S KWENYE HIYO WEBSITE YAKE.FLFP"
Read more of Micki McWade's advice on her website.

COMMENT YA MDAU " NIMEIPENDAAA" WEWE JE WAONAJE? WACHA MAONI YAKO HAPA HAPA"
Maybe people should get to know each other, live together, find out all the important things, marry then have children, not meet, sleep, have a kid then "get married because we've had a baby and its best for our child", my husband and I are ying and yang but we can read each other like books, we can never outwit each other because we know each others sneaky plans before we have even figured it out ourselves, we have the same goals, morals and tastes but we both have our annoying habits which we can laugh about, I think we will be married until we are both in our 90s hopefully longer"

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