When Cheryl Cole was 11 years old, something happened that changed her life for ever: her father left home and didn’t come back.
Did she blame herself for her father’s departure and, if so, has she been desperately seeking the approval of the men in her life (including Simon Cowell) ever since?
If that’s the case, perhaps it might go some way to explaining why, at 28, drop-dead beautiful and a multi-millionairess in her own right, she is scurrying back to her rat of a former husband, footballer Ashley Cole.
So much for female empowerment.
Reunited? Cheryl Cole appears to be scurrying back to her ex-husband Ashley despite the fact he was caught with five other women during their marriage"
You might think it’s easy to read too much into Cheryl’s dysfunctional childhood on a tough Geordie council estate.
But I’d be delighted if anyone can offer another sensible reason why the nation’s sweetheart is willing to humiliate herself by accepting back into her bed the man who cheated on her time and again during their marriage.
How else to explain why she is doing such a fine impression of a human doormat?
Sure, we’ve all enjoyed the knockabout tabloid saga of Cheryl’s role as an X Factor judge in Britain — her spats with contestants and fellow judges alike, those laughably bad live performances and those amusingly vampy costumes.
Even her attempts to crack the U.S. were entertaining in a car crash sort of way.
Cheryl will give her legions of young female fans an awful example of how to deal with men if she takes Ashley back"
But this reunion with Ashley Cole is something else altogether. And almost equally as disturbing is the way it is being teased out and manipulated in the redtop press to ensure the pair are splashed across the front pages at every opportunity.
The latest claim is that he’s wooed her back and they want to remarry and start a family. Can she really have dismissed the memory of how he was caught with his pants down on five occasions — with her humiliation graphically exposed in the media every time?
First, there was model Alexandra Taylor, who says she slept with Ashley just after he and Cheryl went public with their relationship. Hairdresser Aimee Walton was the blonde he picked up in a bar. (He vomited while they were having sex, gargled some mouthwash and took up where he’d left off.)
Ann Corbitt was the American one-night stand, blonde Vicki Gough the Liverpool football club secretary reported to have spent two nights with him. Sonia Wild, meanwhile, was the recipient of pictures of Cole’s private parts.
And this at the time he was telling the papers he was desperately trying to save his marriage.
Perhaps to despair at her willingness to go back to Ashley is to invest her with more common sense than she actually possesses.
(Ashley was even reported to have told one of his one-night stands that Cheryl ‘didn’t mind’ him cheating as long as he kept it secret.)
The point is that Cheryl should be different to John Terry’s wife Toni, Coleen Rooney and all the other WAGs who put up with their errant footballer husbands because they are so reliant on them for their lifestyles.
One may despise it, but you can understand why girls such as Abbey Clancy (lingerie model) forgave her fiancé Peter Crouch’s fling with a teenage prostitute and went on to get the ring on her finger.
Or Coleen, taking back Wayne after discovering her Neanderthal husband had a three-in-a-bed session with prostitutes while she was pregnant with their child.
These women exist only because of their partners. Everything they are, everything they have, their status, million-pound weddings and baby magazine deals, their reality TV shows and commercial endorsements, almost all are down to their footballer husbands.
An unrepentant Rooney put it succinctly after he was caught with his hookers. He pointed out that everything Coleen had was down to his talent.
But Cheryl has amassed a £12 million fortune of her own, having escaped her impoverished childhood — and in doing so, she became a poster girl for a generation of teenage girls who all began to believe they, too, could be rich and famous if only they got their break.
Wooing: Cheryl arrives for her birthday party at the weekend, where Ashley was confirmed as being a guest. The Chelsea defender has reportedly sent her gifts and started wearing his wedding ring again in recent weeks"
As they say on The X Factor, Cheryl had the perfect ‘journey’. She was living her dream and thereby offering a route to others to escape the cycle of dysfunctional, abusive families, broken homes and lost hopes.
Yet now she is offering those millions of young female fans the worst possible example of how to deal with men. Can you imagine Madonna letting a husband who cheated on her time and again back into her life? Not for a second. He’d be lucky to escape with his life.
But Cheryl appears to have such low self-esteem that she’s convinced she doesn’t deserve any better than Ashley Cole, a tramp of a man.
Perhaps I wouldn’t feel so queasy about this reunion if I didn’t suspect the entire story was being manipulated by PR camps delighted to see their celebrity clients on the front pages of the tabloid papers. Having been dumped by The X Factor in the U.S. and refusing to take back her place on the British version, Cheryl went into self-imposed purdah for five weeks only to emerge with, you guessed it, a new hairstyle and — in true reality-show style — a new romance.
She hadn’t been on the front pages for weeks, then stories emerged, presumably from Ashley’s camp, that he was wooing her with birthday gifts and a dog, and was wearing his wedding ring again.
The latest revelations came at the weekend after her heavily trailed birthday party at the Sanderson Hotel in central London, which was once achingly trendy, but has recently rather lost its lustre.
On the day of the party — said to have cost £25,000 - Cheryl was put up in the penthouse suite and her family and guests were all given rooms.
he bash was sponsored by Belvedere, a posh Polish vodka company, and, hey presto, it was Belvedere’s PR who confirmed Ashley was at the party — from which pictures inevitably appeared on the front of a Sunday paper.
There was even an appearance from Cheryl’s mother Joan, who has long been one of the major players in this soap opera.
Party time: The couple boogie in the back of a car during their marriage. Their has even been a suggestion that the couple will start a family and remarry as soon as possible"
Followers of Cheryl’s career might remember Joan’s regular presence at the couple’s Surrey home - she lived there at one point - being blamed by Ashley as a factor in the marriage’s breakdown.
At the weekend, one tabloid reported she was less than pleased to see her daughter chatting animatedly to Ashley at the party.
But yesterday, the story had changed and it was suggested Ashley has finally won Joan’s approval because she ‘can’t help who her daughter loves’.
Meanwhile, tales of the evenings the couple have spent together at his brother’s home were leaked, then claims they’d spent the whole weekend together.
The final headline-grabbing suggestion from ‘friends’ of the footballer was that he and Cheryl want to remarry and are desperate to start a family as soon as possible.
The result of all this is that everyone is talking about Cheryl and Ashley again. He’s promised her the world — and Cheryl has fallen for it. Stupid, stupid girl. It will end only in heartbreak
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